The other day I was watching this video that was a group of 3 centenarians talking about their regrets.
That's a lot of time to look back at the epic journey of a life and consider your regrets…
You can cram lot of regrets into a life.
You can also cram a lot of genuine wins into a life.
The great thing was that these 3 100+ year olds had got to a point where they didn't really have much in the way of regrets.
Maybe old age and dementia had gotten the better of them and they had forgotten all the stupid stuff they'd done in their life…
Or (and I like to think this is the real reason)
They had come to a place where they could see all life as folly and forgiven all the stupid things they'd done and had done to them. That they'd come to see them as all part of the dance of life and, in that, there was nothing that was worth the energy required to bother with something as ineffectual as regret.
In fact, the cool thing I noticed was that they all kind of had interests, tried new things and were still really enjoying life.
One of them was pretty focussed on the past and living in her memories, but to me that makes sense, as you get older and move closer to the end, you can’t help but look back on all you’ve done.
After all, it makes up some of who you are.
On the other hand, I notice that the older I get the more I identify with my spirit and the less I identify with my body as the core of my being…
Thinking you are your body is a young man's game.
Personally, I am not my 6-pack or my glossy mane of hair (clearly not both of those )
Neither am I my commercial property portfolio or my cash flow.
These are just things I have (or don’t have – whatever!)
Those things can either help facilitate my life and daily activity or they can detract from it.
Strutting around big-noting myself because of my income, job, the size of my portfolio etc is another young man’s game.
Let the roosters strut.
A friend of mine has a great saying: “Rooster one day, feather duster the next”
If you’re not working to create a life that brings you joy and great memories, then all you’re doing is marking time and surviving.
The one factor all these 3 oldies had was that they kept themselves young in mind. They were interested in life and people.
They were still learning.
It doesn’t matter how old you are… you can still learn…
…and “it’s never too late to become what you could have been”
That’s some famous person’s quote… but sorry, I forget who.
One of my students recently died… It was saddening because she wasn’t very old.
But the cool thing was that she left a legacy of commercial property that is now providing an income for her son.
The legacy of commercial property is generational… and so is an attitude of learning and being interested in life…
These oldies no doubt have passed it onto others…
An idea is the most insidious virus known to man. Once an idea takes hold it can be almost impossible to get rid of.
So choosing what you believe is important.
Personally, I love the idea of staying interested in life. It keeps me young and who knows if you adopt it too maybe we’ll be sipping scotch to celebrate our 100th birthday together.